How to Coordinate Wedding Suits for Two Grooms
Written by Kenji Tanaka
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For a same-sex wedding, choosing wedding suits for two grooms presents an interesting design question.
Should both grooms wear exactly the same suit? Should they use the same fabric but choose different designs? Should they coordinate only the colors? Or should each groom choose a completely different suit?
There is no single answer.
Rather than asking how much two wedding suits should match, it can be more useful to ask how the two grooms want to look together on their wedding day.
Wearing Exactly the Same Suit
Two grooms wearing exactly the same suit can be a particularly beautiful choice.
Using the same fabric, color, jacket, trousers, and even shirt creates a strong sense of unity. In wedding photographs, the symmetry can be especially striking.
There is nothing unusual about wanting to wear the same suit for such an important occasion.
Bespoke tailoring does not mean that individuality always has to be expressed through differences. If both grooms genuinely like the same design, there is no reason to change it simply for the sake of making the suits different. The same suit can be individually tailored to each body while preserving the visual unity of the pair.
Keeping a Common Element While Changing the Design
Another approach is to use the same fabric or color while choosing different jacket designs or silhouettes.
For example, both grooms might wear the same navy fabric, with one choosing a single-breasted jacket and the other a double-breasted jacket. They could also use the same fabric while choosing different silhouettes—one more classic, the other more contemporary and minimal.
The common element does not have to be the jacket. Trousers, shirts, shoes, bow ties, pocket squares, or other details can also create a visual connection.
With bespoke tailoring, details such as lapel width, shoulder construction, waist suppression, jacket length, and trouser silhouette can be adjusted according to each groom's proportions and preferences. This makes it possible to use the same fabric or color while creating a shape that works naturally for each person.
Different Colors, Similar Level of Formality
The two wedding suits can also use deliberately different colors.
One groom might wear midnight blue while the other wears charcoal grey. Another combination could be a light green suit paired with an ivory one.
In this approach, the important point is not necessarily to match the colors, but to maintain a similar overall level of formality.
When the fabrics, textures, tailoring, shirts, shoes, and accessories are balanced, different colors can still work together as part of one cohesive wedding look.
The venue, time of day, ceremony style, and overall atmosphere of the wedding are also important considerations when deciding how different the colors should be.
One Tuxedo, One Dinner Jacket
Another way to create a more defined contrast is for one groom to wear a classic black tuxedo while the other wears a dinner jacket in a different color or fabric.
Both remain formalwear, but the difference in design and material allows each groom to express his own personality.
Even here, a shared element can connect the two looks. For example, having both grooms wear black trousers can create a clear visual relationship between otherwise different jackets.
In an actual wedding, two grooms can choose different jackets and fabrics while sharing selected elements, creating a cohesive look when they stand together.
Consider How the Two Suits Look Together
Wedding attire is often considered separately. In a traditional wedding between a bride and groom, for example, the bride's wedding dress and the groom's suit are usually chosen independently. The dress may even remain a surprise to the groom until the wedding day.
When both partners wear suits, however, an interesting design question emerges: how can two suits work together as part of the same wedding image?
Of course, the two grooms do not necessarily have to choose their suits together. Each can have a suit made separately and keep the design a secret until the wedding day. Seeing each other's finished look for the first time at the ceremony can be part of the experience, and the resulting combination may be something neither expected.
Alternatively, the two grooms can discuss their choices from the beginning and design their wedding suits as part of one overall look.
What matters is that each suit works on its own, while the two garments also feel natural when the grooms stand together during the ceremony, reception, and photographs.
One groom might choose a classic style while the other prefers a contemporary silhouette. Or both might choose exactly the same design, with each suit individually tailored to their respective bodies.
At uniontailors, this is an important part of the bespoke process. Rather than deciding in advance that certain elements must match or differ, we look at each groom's preferences, proportions, personality, and the atmosphere of the wedding, then propose where similarities and differences can create the strongest overall result.
We believe bespoke tailoring should be inclusive by nature. As an inclusive bespoke tailor, uniontailors welcomes LGBTQ+ clients and same-sex couples, approaching each wedding as an individual design project rather than applying a fixed formula.
There Is No Single Right Answer
There are no fixed rules for wedding suits for two grooms.
They can be exactly the same. They can use the same fabric with different designs. They can coordinate only their colors. They can be completely different. One can wear a tuxedo while the other wears a dinner jacket. Or each groom can choose his suit independently and keep it a secret until the wedding day.
What matters is not following a rule because the couple is a same-sex couple, but deciding how the two grooms want to look on their wedding day.
For LGBTQ+ couples, as for any couple, there is no single way to approach wedding attire. They can choose a traditional style, a more contemporary direction, or create a combination that is entirely their own.
The appeal of bespoke tailoring is that it allows two grooms to have the same design individually tailored to their bodies, to create different designs from the same fabric, or to combine different colors and fabrics into one cohesive wedding style.
Bespoke is also more than simply making what a client asks for.
It is about understanding each person's preferences and instincts, then considering what should be shared and what should remain different so that the two suits work naturally together. Proposing and refining that balance is also an important part of inclusive bespoke tailoring.
How much the two suits should match, and where they should differ, depends on the personalities of the two grooms and the character of the wedding.
Ultimately, the goal is not to make two separate outfits look alike, but to create a wedding style that feels complete when the two grooms stand together.